This past month on our Weaponized Scripture series on the podcast, we have explored difficult but important conversations about abuse, spiritual authority, forgiveness, divorce, and how Scripture is sometimes used in ways that wound rather than heal. One of those conversations was with Thomas Pryde of the Psalm 82 Initiative. In our interview, we first asked Thomas to talk about the passage of Psalm 82. Psalm 82 is not one of the passages most Christians quote regularly. Yet

By Barbara Grant, MMFT, NDCC, CAS Intimacy problems in neurodiverse relationships rarely begin in the bedroom. More often, they begin in the nervous system. Neurodiverse couples frequently seek help because they feel emotionally disconnected, stuck in repetitive conflict, misunderstood, or unable to experience safe and satisfying physical intimacy. In neurodiverse relationships, especially, these struggles can feel confusing and painful because both partners may deeply lov

Stephanie C. Holmes Parker Palmer wrote, "Summer's keynote is abundance. Forests fill with undergrowth, trees with fruits, meadows with wildflowers and grasses, fields with wheat and corn, gardens with zucchini, and the yard with weeds. Summer teaches me that when I embrace only scarcity, I create the very scarcity I fear. And summer teaches me that abundance is a communal act of an incredibly complex ecology. Each part functions on behalf of the whole, and in return is susta

This review is a little different. Usually, I review a single book. This time, I want to highlight an entire body of work. When we first met Bruce and became familiar with his and Dr. Joy’s work, Dan and I were astounded at all that we did not know, were mistaught, but also how translations can be so different in the teachings on men, women, and marriage. Meeting Bruce inspired Dan to take biblical Hebrew, and soon he will be starting biblical Greek. So Bruce’s work greatly i

BY BARBARA GRANT, MMFT, NDCC, CAS Intimacy—both emotional and physical—is often described as the heartbeat of a healthy marriage. Yet for many neurodiverse couples, intimacy can feel confusing, inconsistent, or just out of reach. Partners may deeply love each other and genuinely want connection, but still find themselves missing one another in the moments that matter most. Over time, this gap can feel discouraging, even disorienting: Why does something that should feel natura

There are books I recommend because they are helpful. There are books I recommend because they are well-researched. And then there are books I recommend because I genuinely believe they have the potential to change lives. Life-Saving Divorce by Gretchen Baskerville covers all of these categories. Whenever I talk about abuse and divorce, I get accused of not being pro-marriage or being too pro-divorce. But that is not true. As I have said many times, I am so pro-marriage and s

There are some books you read, underline, and place on a shelf. Then some books force you to stop, reflect, and reconsider assumptions you have carried for years. For me, To Harm or Heal? How Religion Can Help or Hurt Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Dr. Steven Tracy falls into the second category. He is also the author, with his wife Celeste Tracy, of Mending the Soul. Recently, Dan and I had the privilege of interviewing Dr. Tracy as part of our Weaponizing Scripture podcast se

By Rev. Dan Holmes, MS There are truths a man can miss for years not because they were hidden, but because they were quiet. Some burdens announce themselves dramatically. A paycheck arrives or does not. A roof leaks. A car fails. A job is lost. Illness enters with scans, prescriptions, and appointments. These are visible pressures, easy to name, easy to point at, easy to call important. Other burdens are less theatrical and therefore easier to undervalue. Who is keeping peace

BY BARBARA GRANT LETTING go isn't a single act—it's a process. One of the most vital steps in this process is grief. But grief is more than sorrow over loss. It’s a deep neurological and emotional experience that can be amplified or even distorted by trauma. Many people who feel stuck in patterns of emotional pain are actually struggling with unprocessed grief and trauma that the brain has hardwired in an effort to survive. This article explores how grief and trauma inte

By Rev. Dan Holmes, MS There was a season of my life when I believed truth would arrive in a form I respected. It would be calm, orderly, rational, properly timed, and delivered with sufficient emotional restraint to prove it deserved consideration. It would come packaged in the language of analysis, not urgency. It would appeal to logic before feeling, sequence before atmosphere, metrics before mood. If it arrived otherwise, I was inclined to distrust not only the delivery,

By Rev. Dan Holmes, Master Life Coach; NeuroDiverse Marriage Coach I was loading tempered glass shelves into the back of a truck for a drive from Atlanta to Charlotte. Nothing spiritual about it. Just one of those ordinary, slightly stressful tasks where you know that if you get it wrong, you’ll hear a very distinct sound somewhere on I-85. My first instinct was immediate and obvious: Stand the glass on its edge. That’s how professionals transport glass. I’ve seen the trucks.

Dr. Stephanie’s Newest Book! Available June 2, 2026! For Parents, Educators, Administrators, and Educational Professionals! Empowering Autistic Voices in Education is a groundbreaking, research-informed, and deeply human guide to dismantling systemic barriers and fostering authentic inclusion for autistic students, particularly those pushed to the margins. Unique in its approach, this book amplifies the lived experiences of neurodivergent individuals alongside insights from p

By Carol Reller, Retired SLP (Written for Holmes’ Cinema Clues) This is a great question. The simple answer: yes and no. Let’s explore that question. People interact with media for a variety of reasons. Oftentimes, people just want to be entertained. Sometimes people watch shows or listen to podcasts with the intent to learn something. Children will watch shows or play games for entertainment, and as an aside, may learn a few things along the way, although it may not be what

(Written by Barbara Grant, MMFT, NDCC, CAS, with the input of many neurotypical wives) Dear Faith Leaders and Marriage Helpers, We write to you with respect and gratitude for your heart to help struggling couples. Yet many Christian women in neurodiverse marriages —where one partner is autistic or has ADHD— have suffered further harm under well-intentioned but uninformed guidance. Our hope is that this letter opens eyes, hearts, and conversations toward more compassionate

By Mary Gable (pen name), an NT Wife Part 1 While chatting with a friend several years ago, she referenced the word schemata. While I’d heard it before, I walked away with valuable insight after years of marital confusion. Miriam Webster defines schemata as: a mental codification of experience that includes a particular organized way of perceiving cognitively and responding to a complex situation or set of stimuli. Between my spouse’s memory lapses and his hulk like defense m

A New Conversation & a New Show! Holmes’ Cinema Clues! By Cinema Agent Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes Like many ideas in our family, Holmes’ Cinema Clues didn’t begin as a formal plan. It grew out of ordinary conversations that Dan and I have had for years about movies, characters, and the way certain stories linger with us long after the credits roll. Every once in a while, a scene or a character will capture something so familiar that it feels like the writers somehow stumbled ont

Launching May 1, 2026 at 8 pm ET on YouTube! What is it? Each episode treats media like a case file. With neurodivergent guests, clinicians, and behavioral experts, the show investigates representation: what works, what falls into stereotype, and why certain portrayals resonate so strongly with viewers. The goal isn’t necessarily a diagnosis — it’s insight. A smarter way to watch stories and understand how media shapes identity, belonging, and perception. Sharp, accessible, a

By Barbara Grant, MMFT, Certified Autism Specialist The Bible describes the gift of discernment as the ability to distinguish between spirits (1 Corinthians 12:10). Yet the topic is often misunderstood. Some people assume discernment means confidently knowing who is right and who is wrong in every situation. But biblical discernment is humbler and more thoughtful than that. True discernment involves carefully distinguishing between truth and error, good and evil, while remain

By Jeremy Rochford TI-CLC, MHC, YMHC, BCS Have you ever sat back and asked yourself, “Why can’t my Neurodiverse partner just do the thing I keep asking them to do?” I mean, you’ve given them all the tools, resources, and time needed, but they’re still not following through?!?! Many days it feels like you’re stuck in the movie Groundhog Day, where the next day comes, but the results never change. And, to make it worse, there’s never a Bill Murray cameo. It’s the literal defin

By Ginny & Tommy, NeuroDiverseChristian Couple Life circumstances whether it be good or bad, can change a person’s heart. I came into my marriage with a heart that was soft, full of love, care and devotion. Two decades of friction from pain, betrayal, misunderstandings, lack of communication and lack of having a partner caused my heart to develop calluses that were running deep. I knew that I didn’t want those calluses to get any bigger. I grew up knowing there was a God an